Self-worth
Self-worth. It is a phrase that one hears regularly these days. It almost falls on deaf ears from overuse in the media. It is becoming one of those phrases that people simply brush off. “Yes! Yes, I know all about it!”
I speak about the importance of an individual’s self-worth endlessly. I shall probably continue to do so for the rest of my days! I feel that it is of paramount importance in our lives. It affects how people perceive us, how they treat us, and most importantly how successful we are not only in our goals but also as individuals.
Outwardly, most of us say that we are worthy and worthwhile. That is a good step but until the internal dialogue is congruent with our feelings and our desires we hold ourselves back from what we most want.
A while back I had a moment that I would like to share. In short, there was an emergency and my partner and I landed up rushing to the hospital late on a Saturday night. During the course of the evening – as usually happens to me wherever I go – I landed up comforting a little old Irish lady in a wheel chair while I waited. The nurses plonked her right next to me! She asks me if it was alright if she just sat there and cried. Oh boy!
After lots of tissues and tears, we all began to laugh and one of the family members (all Irish te be sure!) pipes up, “Well Jo, you know that by Irish common law, you are now married!”
Oh well, more laughter all around. Pretty soon most of the waiting room was either edging closer to be part of the mirth or simply listening in with grins on their faces. Shortly after, that there was a comment that popped up directed at me.
“So, who do you belong to Jo?”
There was a moment of silence while everyone looked around at each other and my partner looks directly at me and pipes up loudly, “He belongs to me!”
It was one of those moments in time that a person lives for. Never mind that it all watered down to empty words with the passing of time… the moment was imprinted forever!
So the point of this little moment of mine is really to illustrate that one shouldn’t rely on external acceptance nearly as much as our own internal self-worth. Yes, it was a watershed moment for me in many ways. The most important one was really that the external world had just become congruent with my internal self.
At that very moment there were no doubts. There were no thoughts of not being worthy. There was just me and I was with people who valued my presence, one of them was me!
Without a healthy self-worth, we push away what we most want in our lives. We find fault with it and prefer to thrust it away before it is taken away from us.
Your vital energy, thoughts, feelings, emotions, words, actions, and your very ‘being’ must vibrate in sync. We are not machines that run like clockwork, always creating the exact patterns. Sometimes we falter and feel down. That is quite makes us human. It is just how you react and the measures you take to correct the negative process that make the difference.
Every day you need practice. It doesn’t happen overnight but it happens quicker with every step you take. One day you suddenly realise you can no longer recall when last you actually consciously made the effort to be positive. It has become an automated cog that turns by default in your brain.
So go on… brainwash the grey right out of your head and step into bright Technicolour!
